Ignorance

As I was browsing internet I came across this post
http://swapnashirwalkar.blogspot.com/2007/05/home-alone.html
I agree with all the things she has mentioned. I was impressed how well she has written it. I went through the exact same thing and did a lot of things she has mentioned. I learned driving, did volunteer work, did some courses at community college. Finally after working for it long time, I got admission in a good graduate school. I always wanted to study but because of family restraints I could not do it when I wanted to. So this was not something I did just to spend my time. This was and is what I wanted to do with my life. I feel this is where I belong and this is exactly what I should be doing.
But after I started school, I was surprised by the number of people who asked me that now that I am in the school, I must not be having problem about how to spend my time????
I was shocked. These were I thought are the people who knew that I wanted to study and do something. How can they even think that I am doing this just to spend time?
And there were other people who said that its a different thing to join school, get Ph.D. and dream to get a good job. They told me that its not practical. You should think about your family, try some other job (which I was not able to find). These were the senior people, the experienced ones. I know that it is not an easy thing to find a job, but at least let me try.
I was so furious that after waiting and trying for so long I am finally doing what I want to do and all people can think about is spending time and commenting about what I am doing. They will never understand how they are hurting someone just by their one sentence.
But then I found the magical trick IGNORE them.
As I got busy with my studies I practiced it even better. Although it is hard, try and try and you can do it, least for the people who are not close and do not meet every day. Its hard to ignore when someone close to you says something. But hope that they won't.
For all those on the dependant visas, ignorance is the best policy before you get job and after you get it too.

Start again

Now almost a year later I am back to blogging. Even that I think is because this is the last thing I could think of doing. For some reason I don't feel like going out on this nice summer day and for a change my husband wanted to. So finally after waiting for a long time for me he left. Till few months back the situation almost invariably was opposite. I wanted to go out and he did not. So always I used to go out alone. Walk for an hour or two. Go out to do some window shopping, go to library or to post office to post something, may be a bill. Now situation is exactly opposite. I am quite sure that he does not remember that the situation was exactly opposite few months back and I used to go out alone just like he is now.

Now that I have started, I hope to keep writing the blog.

 

Navin

I guess like all other things even posting on the blog for the first time is bit strange.
After few postings I will be comfortable and just go there and do it but this is the first time.
Lets see what happens.